Have you ever been asked a question that you were reluctant to answer? Though you were reluctant, did you feel like, by answering it, you would be able to share what you believe? Well, today during lunch I was sitting down and a group of kids sat next to me. I knew these kids before and knew what they talked about but they pulled me into what they were talking about this time. They asked me, because they knew I have a girlfriend, whether I have had sex with her. (I may know what you are thinking as a reader, "Oh no! He said sex!" If done within marriage it is a beautiful thing. God did not make this a part of life for us not to enjoy it, as long as it is done within marriage. Also it is a very good thing to know where you stand.) Now this scared me. I was hesitant to answer because I didn't know what they would say. I then realized I should answer their questions and just stand with my beliefs. I said that I had not and that I didn't plan on it either. One of the kids was shocked. He also asked if I had done anything less than sex (if you catch my drift) and I said no, because I don't believe it is right. All the guys were astonished, but they also said they respected that.
Have you ever had an experience similar to this? What did you do? I do believe whole-heartedly that no matter what type of sexual activity it is, it's wrong outside of marriage. God designed sex to be between a man and a woman who are married and committed to each other. I suggest talking to a Christian youth leader, parent, or grandparent on what they believe on this subject. Find out what the Bible says too. It is very good to know where you stand on something like this. There will be a time in which you may be asked what you believe. There are other people out there that believe what you believe. Stand strong for what you believe in.
What do you mean less than sex?
ReplyDeleteAlso, in response to your question(s), personally, I have been in a situation where people have asked me how far I've gone with my significant other. If I'm not particularly close with them, I usually respond with something along the lines of "why does it matter?", because really, it shouldn't change their opinion of me. It doesn't make me any worse of a person, and it doesn't change my behavior towards others. However, if it's someone I can generally trust, I'll tell them (again, generally, without all the gory details). Again, it shouldn't matter to them- the difference being that if I refused to tell them, it would only show that I didn't trust them (which could ruin a friendship, I promise you, it has happened before). And personally, I don't think that sexual activities are wrong before marriage, but again, it's just a personal opinion. Some might make assumptions such as "ooh she's such a slut because she thinks its ok", but I've had legitimate relationships with only 2 guys, one who I was dating for a year and a half, and my current amazing, wonderful boyfriend :) Honestly, I don't regret it. It was a personal decision. I'm not very religious- my parents never took me to temple or church or anything, and I think of myself as a self-proclaimed Buddhist/Quaker mix, I suppose. But even someone with an less-than-perfect past should be accepted by God.
I think that its really cool that you're deciding to wait, though :) and your posts are very insightful!
Okay. So I wanted to say thanks for commenting. My posts/blog are not meant to be judgmental. I hope they don't come off that way. You bring up a couple of interesting topics. It is good that you show some commitment in relationships and that you know the significance of sex. And, for the record, I don't think you are a slut. Also, it is cool to see you talk about God when you have not gone to church or temple. My youth pastor was the same way for most of his life. I definitely agree with you that God accepts anyone. The only thing I would add though to that is He accepts anyone but He doesn't accept the wrong that has been done. And that is why He did something about it. Thanks for your comments again!
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